was sich so getan hat im letzten jahr: he now is much more open minded. liebevoll, hilfsbereit war er schon immer, tritt jetzt endlich wieder mehr zutage. offene augen, sieht & fühlt & kümmert sich. has not learned spanish though but found a way to get along here. and within the last weeks he has indeed started, very slightly, to communicate with people here. he does not ignore them, tries to understand, understands (instinctively) & tries to act appropriately (even if he does not talk).

he is now ready to leave me, to take his next steps on his own. he will go back to germany. going to live with his father – for some time, trying it. thinks about graduating.

ich freue mich für ihn, bin auch bereit ihn ziehen zu lassen. god, i will miss him! hoffe, dass er bei seinem vater den raum haben wird, den er für seine weitere entwicklung braucht. vertraue ihm, dass er – mal wieder – für sich richtig entscheidet. und schließlich : er will wirklich gehen, fühlt sich nicht rausgedrängt durch meine pläne & weiss, dass er jederzeit zurückkommen kann!

new mantra. it is only a phase. and every phase is an opportunity

adolescence is an opportunity

from born to learn.

after weeks of waiting it finally arrived here … and bear mom has some reading to support her project

i have read this book years ago … but with a different focus that time. hope to find some words, some ideas, supporting our actual work here.

whew! i do have the power for this project, but sometimes i don’t have the energy to communicate lovingly … how stubborn a 15yrs old can be! how much easier things have been when he was 3 yrs old … not that he behaves much different sometimes, but then i could just hug him …